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That's what my husb is! I'll explain. Our 13th anniversary is today, so I shipped the kids off to his parents since Friday to be able to do whatever the whole weekend. Fri. night we saw the movie "Chuck and Larry", funny stuff, by the way, and we came home afterwards. No big deal cuz he worked on Fri. so I know he was tired. Sat. comes and I knew he'd be busy all day working on something at this lady's house, she's paying him to fix some things, no problem, he got home around 5:00. I had done the sam's/walmart thing earlier so by the time he got home I would be ready for whatever we did.
His brother and his girlfriend said they were going to play pool with 2 other friends at 7:00, so I thought that would be great. Finally to do something! NOT! A friend of my husb came over to borrow the lawnmower and we HAD to wait til he got back to return it which was at 7:00!! We wanted to go eat some dinner, THEN go play pool BUT we only got to eat. So I then suggested that we go where my sis-in-law works, a club/restaurant and we could hang out and get FREE drinks and his brother and the other people who played pool would meet up with us there. HE DIDN'T WANT TO GO!! I asked why and he said he didn't FEEL like going there, BUT had NO OTHER suggestions on anywhere else! I was pissed now!! So he takes me to the daiquiri shop to get a daiquiri, which I didn't even drink and we were home by 11:45!!!

Now Sunday is here and he said he had to help his other brother with something at his house that would take long so I decided to take the kids to my nephew's 1st b-day party, since my husb was going to be busy and I'd drop them back off to his parents when I was done.
It didn't work out that way cuz I ended up going TO his brother's house where he was, myself WITH the kids and stayed there until after 7:00!! Which means we did absolutely NOTHING TODAY on our anniversary. I LEFT him there at his brother's house watching the Saint's game and came home! I AM STARVING FOR SOME ADULT SOCIAL ENTERTAINMENT/CONVERSATION!!
We don't do anything or go anywhere EVER. Every time I suggest something, he doesn't like it or want to do that! But has nothing to offer up himself! I try to remember what we did when we were dating cuz I couldn't have married him if I was bored back then. Well, I had a best friend back then. Her and her then boyfriend would hang out with us, movies, bowling, casino, play board games...everything's more fun when you have other people to play with!!
Sorry this was long but I was really pissed off and let down so I needed to vent!

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Okay, here's a ...

Okay, here's a thought...he DOES know it's your anniversary, right? I mean, is it possible that the date has slipped his mind? If he didn't forget, you might try gently talking to him about how you had looked forward to spending some "alone" time with him this weekend..."alone" meaning, no kids. It could be that he IS over-extended everywhere but with you, but he might not realize that by always helping others (a great thing, by the way) he's also limiting the amount of time he has to offer to you and your kids.

I'm sure he didn't mean to slight you, but I know it hurts, nonetheless. And, on a different note, maybe he has a surprise planned for you for later tonight!!!

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!!

P.S. I don't know if you saw my response in an earlier post, but you asked where in Louisiana I lived. Have you ever visited the oldest settlement in the Louisiana Purchase?

I SO understand! Did he ...

I SO understand! Did he even remember that is was your anniv?? If not, that is the ONLY reason he should have for not wanting to go do something!!! I would have strangled him!
But on the other hand, after I dropped off the kids, I would have indulged myself in a relaxing shower, then just wore my comfy clothes and drank wine and read a book, or what ever you do to relax...........
.......If I would have caught him watching football, I could have blown a fuse!

he knew, we exchanged ...

he knew, we exchanged greeting cards and he asked me earlier in the week what I wanted to do and I told him anything BUT STAYING HOME!! he is not the type to "plan" surprises and stuff, TOTALLY NOT ROMANTIC!!! oh, well!

and nestle, the oldest settlement in La., forgive me, I'm lost ...

Natchitoches -- Home of ...

Natchitoches -- Home of Steel Magnolias!

right, ok, I've been there ...

right, ok, I've been there ONCE, a long time ago, I believe to go tubing down some river, LOL!!

That would be the Cane ...

That would be the Cane River, right in the heart of downtown Natchitoches! It's a neat place to live, if I do say so myself! It has been said that Natchitoches is little New Orleans -- only without all the transvestites! :)

I should come back there ...

I should come back there again, how far is it from me, in East N.O.?

and how's your mom?

and how's your mom?

You're a good 4 or so ...

You're a good 4 or so hours away. Thankfully the interstate makes it a much better drive! You know, Oprah was here not too long ago. And supposedly Sammy Kershaw is going to be the Grand Marshal of our Christmas festival parade. Oprah I like, Sammy Kershaw --- eh.

Oooohh, and I'm bitchy ...

Oooohh, and I'm bitchy enough right now to do that too!!

I feel for you. Our 5th ...

I feel for you. Our 5th anniv. was this past may and my hubby asked well in advanced if he could have a pass for that day. his plt sgt said not a prob but forgot about it even though Shawn reminded him everyday until two days before. Wouldn't you know that he was scheduled to jump out of an airplane that day and couldn't get out of it even though there was a jump two weeks later. Well he jumped, got hurt and we spent most of our anniv. in the hospital waiting to get seen. He never got seen went to sickcall the next day was told he had a partial tear to his bicep muscle. If he had gotten the day off he wounldn't have gotten hurt.

ok, here's what you do. ...

ok, here's what you do. Write him a letter telling what you want and how you feel wait 24 hours before giving it to him. then read it and make sure it expresses how you feel without being angry. once you have done that, give it to him so he can read it without anyone around. if he doesn't respond to this, then you two need marital counseling. Good luck. hope this works for you, it works for me with my husband. by doing this then you do not end up in an argument about him spending more time with you and your children.

nah, I would rather get ...

nah, I would rather get into a fight..... I don't think emotions come out as well, or get misinterpreted on paper/blogs! LOL ;)

Dawn, thanks for asking ...

Dawn, thanks for asking about my Mom. Actually she isn't doing well -- I just left the hospital (she's in ICU) and she probably won't live much longer. She is in heart failure and her vitals are dropping steadily and quickly. Thank you for asking.

My husband and I got stuck ...

My husband and I got stuck in a rut like that awhile back. He wouldn't take me out and our weekends were zzzzzz...

So one day I put on a nice dress, did my hair and makeup, and walked into the livingroom. He wanted to know where I was going and I said I was tired of sitting at home so I was going out. He tried to ask some more questions but I said "You're gonna make me late" and walked out the door.

He damn sure listened to me the next time I said I wanted to go out.

did you at least have fun ...

did you at least have fun when you went out?

well I only went to the ...

well I only went to the movies FRI and came right home and went to eat Sat and came right home, so NO I did nothing, HAD NO FUN, but he knows, I'm still pissed at him even today still!

I once made the ...

I once made the unforgivable mistake of thinking my anniversary was on the 31st when it was on the 30th so I missed it. (It has to do with my never having been able to remember which months have how many days in them and I was thinking it was on the last day of August which I didn't realize at the time had 31). Anyway, she didn't do anything on the 30th either, didn't say a word, no card, no gift, no nothing, and She Knew! So who's worse? Who's responsibility is it to make the fuss? Both, I say. She was at least as wrong as I was then. I'm not saying it was your fault for a boring day, far from it as one can see from what you said. I'm just pointing out how the wives seem to take it much differently. To a guy, it's a day. It's special, it's something to celebrate - together, but it's a day. To a gal it seems to be most often about them, not the husband and her but about her. She's the one who expects the flowers and the dinner and a gift. The guy? He's lucky (and happy) if she approves of all the fuss and gets laid that night. Something's out of balance there.