It looks like this spring I will have to pick up a second job. Looking at costs for the wedding and the amount of bills we have (Adam has) it's just too much.
While Adam is trying to pay off his Amex card ($200/month), aside from his other bills, I am paying the house bills and my own. I'm trying to give him the chance to knock out his credit cards so he will be debt free, so I am paying the house bills. This is just killing me. I don't get paid a lot (considering what I do, I do get a lot) but it's not enough to make ends meet AND pay for a wedding. My parents told me a few times that they are paying for it, all of it, but I told my mom I'm not comfortable with that and that I never expected them to pay. I was happy they payed the reception deposit.
I need to get the caterer taken care of soon and that requires a deposit and I am not going to ask my parents for the money. If they insist and give it to me, fine. But I won't just go to them and say, "Hey, I am booking the caterer and they require a $1000 deposit to hold the date. Do you guys think you can help me out?" NOT going to happen like that!
This month I paid Nicor ($150), Com Ed ($100), Water ($50), Verizon ($140-I forgot to pay last months bill), JC Penny card ($50), Target card ($200), Car Note ($313), Car Insurance ($125-I pay monthly and my insurance went up when I moved and lost the multi car discount). Not to mention I spent $200 on window treatments, about $75 on the chair cushions for the outdoor furniture, and about $150 on groceries.
And now Adam needs me to help him with his Amex payment this month. For whatever reason he's short on money and needs $150 to pay it. I don't argue about it because he has helped me pay my bills before, but this is just getting frustrating that I am paying everything. Yes, our money is "ours" but it's still in my account and for my use. He lives here too and should foot 50% of the bill like he had been doing. But the last 2 months he hasn't been paying anything but his own debt. GRR!
So this spring I will see about getting a 2nd job for weekends near our house so I can bike it to work. I need to get this wedding stuff taken care of, I need to save money, and I need to pay bills and I just don't have any leftover money after paying the bills to save. Adam insists that HE get the second job, but he is tied up at his job more than he needs to be as is. He is there 24/7. If he got a 2nd job he would burn out within a month. At least my schedule is the same every week. He has to work overnights sometimes, 7-3 shift, and 3-11 shift. All those shifts are random and can come at any time. Today and tomorrow he's working a double, then he's working 2 overnight shifts in a row. It just sucks that he works salary because all that overtime and no overtime pay for it makes me want to stab his job.